Conflict is described as a disagreement through which the parties involved perceive a threat to their needs, interests or concerns. So a conflict is really a personal perception of what is important to an individual. A person's point of view based on their own interest, values or needs. That explains why some conflicts are so passionate and even heated at times.
How we handle those times of conflict has a lot to do with our attitude. If we really want to find a resolution. If we really care about the situation or the people involved. Or do we just want to fight because we are so unhappy and don't care about the consequences and the damage we cause.
"Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude."-William JamesI totally agree with this quote. I personally spent way too many years with someone who wanted to fight and had to be right no matter what. I was the peace keeper who just wanted 'calm' in my home and life. I could go the rest of my life without ever fighting or arguing again. Probably won't happen, but I would like that.
Everyone will disagree, at least once in a while, but I see no need to fight. I think right there is an attitude, an attitude of peace. Of deciding not to fight, to communicate and agreeing to work things out. Anything can be discussed calmly with the right attitude. If you truely care about the person you are having a conflict with, I think you should focus on that as much as possible. Words can never be taken back, no matter how many times you say you're sorry. I learned a long time ago that words can cut deeper than anything physical and I have experienced both.
So how do you deal with conflict? Do you think the right attitude makes a difference to the outcome?