tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post708232007525891095..comments2024-01-28T06:33:07.421-06:00Comments on Velvet Over Steel: We all have Choices...Velvet Over Steelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08625445902301159594noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-74622888775768350582011-02-07T07:56:26.103-06:002011-02-07T07:56:26.103-06:00Thank you, Everyone! I did feel like I took my p...Thank you, Everyone! I did feel like I took my power & strength back this weekend, after writing both the Powerful post on Saturday http://velvetoversteel.blogspot.com/2011/02/when-and-how-to-leave-unhealthy.html & this one yesterday. :-) <br /> <br />I had a Strong intuition to Write what was on my heart this weekend. Thank you for listening!!!!<br /> <br />Love,<br />Coreen xoxoxoVelvet Over Steelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08625445902301159594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-53336884222318660222011-02-07T06:20:41.071-06:002011-02-07T06:20:41.071-06:00Sounds like we have the same sort of friends. You ...Sounds like we have the same sort of friends. You have written I know, we can only worry about those things we CAN change, the rest we have to put in Gods hands.<br /><br />It is easy for people to say walk away but the reality of our kind, caring hearts makes it the most difficult thing we do.<br /><br />Maybe the best thing to do is just accept. Accept the situation/person for what it is and Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02136045025997662057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-11151822212784917612011-02-07T05:24:01.710-06:002011-02-07T05:24:01.710-06:00You hit the nail on the head. They must want to h...You hit the nail on the head. They must want to help themselves first. They and only they can change their lives for the better. If they insist on walking down the same old road of pain and unhappiness you must walk away. No sense in you going down that road...you both know it's outcome. Walk away! You have done all you can do. To continue is abuse towards you by them and yourself! Sueannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299288406218968621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-87852304753611224972011-02-07T04:25:08.298-06:002011-02-07T04:25:08.298-06:00it's so sad that people wanted to be happy but...it's so sad that people wanted to be happy but can't find the right way to have it. as they say, the best way to help friends who are hungry is to teach them how to catch the fish instead of giving the fish directly to them. I hope you find the right road.Seyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07012823047633348128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-4048925798146437232011-02-07T01:48:41.874-06:002011-02-07T01:48:41.874-06:00I am so sorry that you feel this way - but so righ...I am so sorry that you feel this way - but so right you are. You can only help those who will accept your help, who will value it and see it for what it is and who will want to change.<br />To change ones habits, ones behavior is very difficult. I feel it myself. In certain situations, no matter how hard I try, I seem to be finding myself in exactly the same trouble. It is as if I lack tools or Zuzanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02137958790178864561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-73525180724151969752011-02-07T01:27:41.801-06:002011-02-07T01:27:41.801-06:00Sorry to hear about your heart condition, Velvet O...Sorry to hear about your heart condition, Velvet Over Steel. I will pray for your good health.<br /><br />As for the situation with your friend, I agree with Ginny's opinion. In order to continue to be a good friend, it looks like you need to set some boundaries for yourself.CountryDreaminghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01054776525714625769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-30176440008161525392011-02-06T19:13:13.372-06:002011-02-06T19:13:13.372-06:00You are absolutely right, Sandie!!
I'm going ...You are absolutely right, Sandie!!<br /><br />I'm going to both continue to be their friend & pray for them. But let them know when I'm worried and even feel hurt. I have to for my own self. Thank you, All!!Velvet Over Steelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08625445902301159594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-48772024971009489622011-02-06T19:04:41.197-06:002011-02-06T19:04:41.197-06:00I didn't know of your heart condition either.
...I didn't know of your heart condition either.<br /><br />Let me play devils advocate. When, in your past, you struggled, you said you didn't have anyone to help - what if you did - do you think you were ready to get out? Would you have? <br /><br />Sometimes being in these situations cause such low self esteem - and when it is so low - sometimes you don't think you can or have Chatty Cronehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232040517217024681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-39363405628846458352011-02-06T19:02:43.703-06:002011-02-06T19:02:43.703-06:00It's extremely sad that your friendship is bei...It's extremely sad that your friendship is being abused that way, especially when you're reaching out to help your friends. <br /><br />Like Jemi said, please don't let them drag you down and drain your energy. *hugs*Stinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11415189347501942340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-6071013568681066702011-02-06T18:28:59.861-06:002011-02-06T18:28:59.861-06:00This is such a difficult situation. You can't ...This is such a difficult situation. You can't let their situations drag you down - it's too emotionally draining and exhausting. Mabye tell them how you're feeling and tell them you're going to have to step back a bit for your own healthy state. good luck!Jemi Fraserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02214408467456320167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-23548494409867545442011-02-06T17:32:37.717-06:002011-02-06T17:32:37.717-06:00Well, first, I didn't know you have a heart co...Well, first, I didn't know you have a heart condition. And second, all the support that you gave in the past was NOT for nothing!! Always remember this, the bible says that God never forgets a single thing we do for him, and kindness and understanding are two of those things. So even though these people still used you and made bad choices, you will get extra rewards in heaven because of your Ginny Hartzlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09329131153403895625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-85871479494211018192011-02-06T16:36:47.494-06:002011-02-06T16:36:47.494-06:00Coreen, you hit the nail in the right place. You r...Coreen, you hit the nail in the right place. You really did. And I am very VERY very proud of you.<br /><br />This friend ought to know that all this mess from their life takes away living moments of YOUR life, too and just because you care for them/love them, they cannot take it for granted that YOU will continue to let them share the stage with you in YOUR life story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-65671889602624469232011-02-06T16:31:19.914-06:002011-02-06T16:31:19.914-06:00Hi Coreen, I wrote a nice, long comment and then ...Hi Coreen, I wrote a nice, long comment and then Blogger ate it!!! Darn! So--I'll try to remember what I said!!!! ha<br /><br />I know how it must feel when you 'know' that someone is making a bad choice, yet they don't do anything to make the situation better. People do make their own choices and there's not one thing we can do about it. We do feel guilty when this Betsy Banks Adamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16223591156634767330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-57203007219894496082011-02-06T16:15:29.797-06:002011-02-06T16:15:29.797-06:00I use personal actions and how they work for me. I...I use personal actions and how they work for me. I also tell people when I pray for them hoping they hear my thoughts and understand I can support them, but they are the ones to help themself.I have said you wear me out when they do, a friend tells everything good or bad.Out on the prairiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09548162534362532705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-46669985432753878782011-02-06T16:02:35.648-06:002011-02-06T16:02:35.648-06:00Sorry - sayING!Sorry - sayING!Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3616033152327236452.post-67388054226302582382011-02-06T16:00:47.791-06:002011-02-06T16:00:47.791-06:00What's the say? You can lead a horse to water ...What's the say? You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink? If she's not serious about changing, it doesn't matter what you say or do. You can only do one thing - pray for her.Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.com