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“You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel.” ~ Unknown
In '8 to Great', motivational speaker for positive change MK Mueller writes this to describe High-Way 4: Feel All Your Feelings.
"As challenges arise, allowing yourself to feel all your feelings returns you to the freedom of childhood, when emotions came and went without guilt or denial. When we realize that there are no “bad” feelings, we stop getting stuck in one feeling to prevent feeling another. We realize that we can feel mad and sad and still have a positive attitude. Once we’re freed up emotionally, we “feel” better physically as well. Finally, as we overcome the fear and judgment of our own emotions, we can more easily accept the feelings of others." ~MK Mueller
“Eyes that do not cry, do not see.” ~ Swedish Proverb
When I was growing up, I was ridiculed for crying. So I seldom did. Later in life, after going through many trials, someone I cared for said I was 'too emotional'. l later realized that person felt guilty for my caring so much, because they didn't deserve it. At the time though, I was very confused and hurt. I decided there must be something wrong with me. I was determined not to show emotion, care too much or let my deep caring feelings out, to anyone! That lasted for a while.
Then I realized and accepted who I. A caring person who 'feels all her feelings' and uses those 'feelings' to help my family, friends, self, others and to accomplish many great things in my life! Accepting my all my feelings helps me to love the person I am... emotional, caring, loving, passionate and All!
If you never get sad... you can be angry for a long time. Without any release you can stay in a 'rage' state of mind. We see that in people who are angry or unfeeling most of the time. The same goes for staying too long in sadness... and never getting angry, using the motivational passion that anger or frustration can give you. This is when many people fall into depression.
I try to find the balance in regards to my emotions. I don't want to stay angry or frustrated when the educational system doesn't do what they should for our special children. But at the same time, I like to use that motivational energy to fight for my son and others. The 'anger energy' fires my passion!
On the other side, we need to 'feel all our feelings' at times, such as with the death of a loved one, or another great loss in our lives. It's a healthy release as long as you don't stay in the sadness too long.
Many times we experience 'mad' and 'sad' in a circle after a death or accident for example. It's very common for someone to be sad at a situation.... then angry at the same situation later. Perfectly normal! So 'feel all your feelings' and accept how others feel too. We all deserve that!
“Feelings are everywhere - be gentle.” ~ UnknownDo you 'feel all your feelings'? Do you accept others?
