"Come from a place of Love, not anger or frustration."~Me
I try hard to stay away from negative and gossipy people who think they know everything about everyone. However sometimes I admit I get sucked in to it when I have my guard down; I'm lonely, tired or just having a bad day. Causing me to have doubts about people I care about; second guessing my own intuition and heart.
I realize now that when I allow others opinions to influence how I feel, that I'm reacting out of Fear. Fear of making another mistake; fear of being hurt and even fear of gossip. None of those things should control or even be a factor in what I decide or do. I fail greatly when I let it.
"We should never react out of fear. We should always respond out of Love."~MEMost of the time when I feel anger, it's really from the Fear of one of those possibilities. When I find fault and react out of Fear; that distorted sense of control never last. It only causes me to have regret and guilt later on. All because I allowed outside chatter and negativity get to me.
There are times when I've shut the door on friends because of the drama going on in their lives. I believed when I was told I should be scared or even angry. Those 'words of advice' are always coming from negative chatter; not from a heart of compassion, understanding or Love.
When we come from a place of Love, we have Understanding and Compassion. I moved twice to give my son... understanding and compassion from teachers and staff that truly cared. It made all the difference in his life. That's why I'm always looking for people like that in my own life.
How does the saying go.... "Be the person you wish to find." I agree... and in regards to all our relationships. I'm trying hard not to be influenced by 'fear'... so I can follow my heart... reaching out to friends and anyone I 'feel' needs me to; without hesitation or fear.
Fear is the only thing that has ever held me back from coming from a place of Love. I pray that there are special people in my life that know and understand that now.
"Negativity comes from Fear. Love stops negativity in it's tracks."~Me