"When you're in fear, you can't grow,you can't expand, you can't relax, you can't create... It's quite paralyzing. Living in fear is essentially toxic to our mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being and growth."~Katie Freiling
The more I watch the people around me and their relationships, the more I notice that most peoples' actions and reactions, are 'triggered' by the same emotion each time...FEAR.
"Fear is only as deep as the mind allows."~Japanese ProverbFear of losing something or someone; Fear of financial struggles; Fear of being alone; Fear of not having Control of a situation or relationship.... and FEAR Fuels More FEAR...over and over again.
"Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood."~Marie CurieSo many times in all our lives, we react or make chooses.... out of FEAR of something happening or not happening. Not out of stupidity or ignorance... but usually rash or poor decision are the result of FEAR.
"As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."~Nelson MandelaIn my own life, I now see why I made the poor decisions I have. Granted, I've been naive, too trusting, and even told 'too nice' many times by my friends... however my worst decisions or reactions have by far been made out of FEAR of something.
“And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”~Marianne WilliamsonEven recently I realize that the stress I've experienced in the last 10 months; have been fueled by Fear. That the jobs I turned down... were from Fear of the unknown. Not having All the answers or knowing Exactly what to expect from those jobs, cause be to focus on the uncertainties instead of the Possibilities.
"Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out."~Karl Augustus MenningerIn recent years, I've stayed in jobs that caused overwhelming stress or were I was unfulfilled... much longer than I wanted to. I stayed out of Fear of 'what ifs' and the unknown at another position somewhere else. Until... I made a conscious decision stopped letting Fear control my decisions or chooses in my own life. I may slip at times and I may not have all the answers; however I do know that letting Fear be a deciding factor... is not the way to live a happy and fulfilling life. Which is what I'm sure is what we all want... now is't it?! ;-)
I will face my fears.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past,
I will turn the inner eye to see it's path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.