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Friday, March 5, 2010

Caring what other people think

Ask anyone who has known me for a long time and they’ll agree that I used to worry about what other people thought WAY too much!

The last year or two I have FINALLY gotten over that! I’m not hyper-sensitive anymore. Ok, ok..not nearly as much as I used to be. :-) However, and this I think is funny, now that I have a blog and am writing ‘publicly’ so to speak…. I have people now telling me that I should worry about what other people think. Really…why? I only write about true stories, mine and my son’s first hand experiences mostly. I give my own thoughts and opinions, which we are all entitled too… correct?!

I know I have a lot to learn about writing and blogging. But I love it already! I'm making new friends and finding tons of connections to resources that can help both my son and I.  And if I can help someone else along the way that was meant to be.

My ultimate goal in starting a blog was to try and help other people relate, understand my son and others like him, along with getting all these stories and thoughts floating around in my head...OUT!

Writing for me, personally relieves the anxiety I feel sometimes from being the soul caregiver to my son and trying to find resources for him. Or from dealing with caseworkers and other organizations that are supposed to be there to help these kids become independent and don’t.

I also enjoy writing about all the ups and downs of dating and relationships. That too is good therapy for me in my quest to find the right man for me. It’s also my way of throwing in a little bit of humor which lightens my mood and encourages me to keep looking. :-)

So should I worry about what I write or what other people think? I don’t think so. As long as someone’s motives are honest and pure, one should be able to write what's on their mind and heart;  expressing how they feel. What do you think?

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  1. Happy FF!! I'm a new follower:) Come visit me @my blog. Have a great day!

  2. As a writer I feel that we do consider what other people think, especially the positive side, but not to the point where it affects what we say. It is so easy to be misunderstood sometimes, and when it happens that bothers me.

  3. The only one I am accountable to is my Heavenly Father.....other than that....I am over it.

  4. New follow from Friday follow. Hope to see you drop in over @ A Penny Saved. Have a great weekend.

    Jen @ A Penny Saved

  5. Following from FF and hope you have a great friday..

  6. I agree with you. I write what I'm feeling or going through. Some posts get 35 comments some get only 10. I know which ones interest people more then others but it doesn't change how I write. You go girl!

  7. Hi, I'm your newest Friday follower!

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  8. Hi! Thanks for the follow & am now following you back. Have a lovely weekend!

  9. Your blog is your private place..What you write is your own rights..I'm all for that.

    Following you back from FF..

  10. Yep, I totally agree. Generally you can see what people 'think' of what you wrote in your comments. Either what someone actually writes...but more often what they don't...or...when you normally get like 20 comments and then all of a sudden you get

    You can tell what flips someone's switch, so to speak. But...for me? I don't care really. It's my blog. My life.

  11. Oh, and I LOVE what DL Hammons wrote above...I feel the same.

  12. I'm here from Friday Follow! I love this post. I think this comes with age too. I used to worry so much about what people thought. Then I had kids and they pretty much embarrass me everywhere I go and I had to stop caring so much. Sometimes that self doubt still creeps in, but I pray to push it away. Good post!

  13. Thank you everyone! I write hoping it will be understood the way I intend. I certainly want to 'help' not 'hurt' a subject. It's a hard balance to 'write' it all out and still be carefull of others experiences and opinions.

  14. Good Afternoon from a late Friday Follower!

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  15. I understand this, I have problems regarding worrying too much and I too find writing to be very therapeutic.

  16. I've spent my entire life worrying about what others think and how they perceive me. It is exhausting. I turned 30 this year and for some reason it hit me that it was time to stop caring. I can only be true to myself if I stop letting the potential thoughts, feeling or actions of others affect me. The same can be said about our writing. Just write. Write from the heart, and as long as it is honest that's enough!


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