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Saturday, October 16, 2010

Banish Negative Voices by: Yemaya

Our histories supply each of us with a library of old memory tapes. These can support or plague us in our day to day lives and behaviors. If you have issues with confidence and self esteem, it may well be that your “old tapes” are negative or destructive. These voices can be subliminal, so that you’re not actually aware of them unless you really tune in and pay attention. When you get those feelings of “not being good enough,” that’s the time to tune in and see if there’s an image or memory there. Will you hear a grandmother, father, or older sibling telling your childhood self something negative, perhaps more than once?

It might have been an off-hand remark to them, yet you have a broken record of their words of discouragement. These are “old tapes.” These can come from past or even current lovers, friends or even our own low self esteem! We collect them, and if we do nothing to banish them, they can drum up a virtual chorus whenever we attempt to move forward, take risks, or even add new people, places or things to our lives!

“Hugin” and “Munin” were magical ravens of myth and legend, also known as “Thought” and “Memory.” Nordic tales of these two creatures were that they could control a person’s destiny! Using “Thought,” or conscious thinking, when a “Memory,” or old tape, affects you in the moment that it occurs, can heal or banish those negative influences from your mind! Old tapes are phrases or words that repeat so often that they have “worn a groove” into your thoughts. You can replace them. The concept is easy, it’s the actions that take a concerted effort on your part.

You must seek out the phrases, thoughts, or memories that are stuck in your mind and write them down. Now you can find the “balance statement.” If the old tape says “you aren’t smart,” you can balance that with “I’m smart enough for all I do.” If the tape says “you aren’t that pretty,” balance it with “I am beautiful.” After you’ve written down the balance statement, use them as positive affirmations. Put them up around your home. Most importantly, when that memory causes a negative reaction, stop, breathe, and then tell yourself that “the TRUTH is…” and put in your positive statement to balance it – and more than once. Before you know it, you’ll have rewritten the old negative tapes with a new, more balanced view of yourself!
By: Yemaya


  1. Thank you so much for reminding us all to find the balance - those old hurts can be hard to get over.

  2. We can come to believe what we tell ourselves and re-train our outlook. I have read a book about this called "Feeling Good" by David Burns. This book is recommended my professional counselors and doctors and is wonderful to read.

  3. I love the concept of this post! It's so true. Reprogramming old tapes is a must!

  4. this is awsome, if everyone reads this they should be positive xx

  5. Great advice - thank you for sharing! :)

  6. I think we all need to remember this every now and then! Those negative words can eat at us! Thanks, Coreen!

  7. Thanks so much for these positive affirmations. It is so weird how these negative statements come flying through your head. Without warning and you wonder where the heck that thought came from?! Good idea to banish them quickly before they take root and ruin your day...your life!!!

  8. good post. in therapy,this can be referred as self talk. we need to stop the negative waves. rose

  9. nice. good wisdom...negative talk and negative self talk can be deadly

  10. This post should definitely take the award for best post of the year. I've realized many times during my adulthood that there are many memories deep within my thoughts that remain strong from my childhood.

    When I'm "stuck" on certain things, I try to think back to find a reason and the thoughts and reasons almost always take me back to when I was a child.

  11. It's amazing what words can stay with us forever and effect us to our adulthood. A very powerful post Coreen. Wonderful!

    xo Catherine

  12. after reading this made me realize that I have so many old tapes in my life. Thank you for the sugggestion of writing them down. Now I will try to balance everything.

  13. Here's more of the same by a different authour:

    The world is unprincipled. It's dog-eat-dog out there! The world doesn't fight fair. But we don't have to live or fight our battles that way--never have, never will. The tools of our trade aren't for marketing or manipulation, but they are for demolishing that entire massively corrupt culture. We use our powerful God-tools for smashing warped philosophies, tearing down barriers erected against the truth of God, fitting every loose thought and emotion and impulse into the structure of life shaped by Christ. Our tools are ready at hand for clearing the ground of every obstruction and building lives of obedience into maturity. II Corinthians 10:3-5 paraphrased by Eugene Peterson.

    Taking every negative thought captive and speaking the truth about who I am in God's view gives me hope and peace. It centers my world view and gives me strength to face what comes.

    Great post. Rosemary

  14. Negativity is seldom productive. It's best to look for the positive and be grateful for all the good things we are blessed with. Criticism can help us redirect our course, but should not always be heeded.

  15. Fine advice. It can be a struggle sometimes.. nice to have tools.

  16. THAT is REALLY helpful and powerful for me! I loved the part about stopping and seeing where that negative thought came from! I will pass this thought onto others and thank you very much for it!


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