"They say that 'time changes things' but I believe that it's really 'knowledge' that does." ~Me
As an example, many feel their first love will last forever, but then they fall out of love later. It's not time that changed things for some couples, it's the realization that one or the other is not the person they thought or believed them to be. Maybe they had blinders on and didn't see their true character; and that their real values in life were very different or they just grew in differenct directions. No matter the reason, these couples just aren't a match or good for each other anymore. Either way, I feel it's the knowledge gained that changed the feelings and relationship.
In my own life I've reacted to situations or friendships badly at times, because I didn't have all the facts... so I could understand. The knowledge at the time, of what was really going on or what someone was going through. I've felt bad when the truth came out and I changed my opinions, perspectives and even feelings... because of the knowledge I received or gained.
Eye-opening experiences, both kind and not so kind, change who we are. It's knowledge, realizing the truth and accepting responsibility for both our actions and the actions of others that we allowed or can't control in our lives, that help us to grow... not time.
I know people who have not grown or changed in their entire life. Instead of taking the knowledge and lessons from life to make positive changes, they blame and complain; not taking responsibility for either their actions or when they didn't do anything to better a situation. They seem to have not learned (knowledge) from their experiences in order to change their lives. In cases like these, time hasn't changed a thing.
I will say though, that taking the time needed to go through the processes of life is needed. Because each step in a process, gives us strength and confidence to make good decisions with peace of mind. No doubt that taking our time, especially when making life changing decisions, is a good idea.
"I hope you all use the knowledge gained in your lives to make the decisions that bring you happiness and peace!" ~Coreen