“Not Listening = Safety Net = Staying Stuck
Listening = Owning Up to Your Own Stuff
= Letting Go = Happiness”
"When you're young, your whole life is about the pursuit of fun. Then, you grow up and learn to be cautious. You could break a bone or a heart. You look before you leap and sometimes you don't leap at all because there's not always someone there to catch you. And in life, there's no 'safety net'. When did life stop being fun and start being scary?" ~unknownI spent a great deal of my life, playing it safe. Living each day being cautious, planing ahead my every step if I could. I thought that if I didn't, I'd end up on a tight rope 200 feet above the dark hole of the unknown, with no one and nothing the catch me if I fell. It's a scary place to be when you're all you have to take care of yourself and your children.
I now see why I stayed in situations, relationships and jobs, FAR longer than I should have. When I was married, at least I knew I could be there for my children and provide for them financially. The same was true with some jobs over the years.
Even though I didn't always feel safe or wasn't personally happy at periods in my life, I at least knew what to expect most days. I was afraid to change those situations, because I had no idea what to expect in regards to actions and reactions by others... if I were to leave or move on.
So I stayed in my 'safety net' of familiar surrounds that even if unpleasant, were at least 'predictable'. When I've been in both toxic relationships or stressful jobs, walking on egg shells became a part of my daily routine, in order to keep the peace or minimize the drama around me. A survival skill learned and lived for too many of us.
There comes a time in most of our lives where something is no longer working or being us happiness. Yet so many of us stay where we do, in 'safety nets', because it's a routine we are used to. Hanging onto 'safety nets' keeps us stuck in those situations and keep us from making needed changes.
Listening to our hearts and being honest with ourselves, allows us to let go of the things in our lives that are no longer working or best for us. Listening allows us to see things the way they truly are, which allows us to own up to our own 'stuff', which includes the roles we play in the situations we're in. Admitting truths to ourselves and accepting responsibility for our own actions and non-actions, will move us forward... in a positive, healthy direction and a fulfilled, happy life!
As the old saying goes "Change is only as painful as the resistance", which means it's all about the 'fear' around the 'change' more than the change itself. So instead of pre-thinking all the changes, it's best to live in the moment. Going through each day seeing what it's like, flowing with it and having faith. Staying in the moment is not usually fearful. It's only the fear that makes it difficult.
“A little shake up on Earth is not going to disturb you. Stay in who you are. The mind, the thinking mind is often confused. When you don’t understand or can’t figure it out, let go. By letting go you will create the only safety net you'll ever need... the one inside of you. The thinking mind creates scenarios (good/bad, right/wrong, high/low). So be true to your heart because the only real safety net is in your heart.” ~unknown
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