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"When you need something, all the universe conspires in helping you... just ask." ~Unknown

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To the person who visits my blog a lot:  Can you please let me know if you need anything?

I feel you are looking for strength and hope when you read my post.  However, you've visited so often and for such a long time without reaching out; that I believe you're in a bad place or situation.  Please know that I won't judge and that you can trust me if you contact me.

I would really appreciate hearing from you in some way.  Maybe I can help you find some direction or just be a friend who listens.  I'm praying for you, who ever you are.

"Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself.  And no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams." ~Paulo Coulho

Forgetting my reason.............

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It has been rough the past month.  We've had many trials and stresses, along with numerous changes in our lives.  Many were support systems or people that have left for one reason or another.

This past week, especially has been life changing.  However, I am at a place in my life where I turn all the situations I experience as lessens and grow from them when ever possible.

Since this month and week was particularly tough for me, I turned to some wonderful, caring friends to uplift me.  It of course helped immediately because they are all so caring, loving, understanding and supportive.  I also trusted them because they accept me, emotions and all, and truly know my heart and intentions in life.  I feel they all have the same heart and soul as I do or I would not have never opened up to them.  I am so very grateful to have them in my life, even if they are all so far way.  I know they are only a state, a phone call, an email or a 'blog' away. 

As I was getting much needed advice and encouragement this week, I was told many times to keep writing in my journal and to blog about what's on my heart and effecting my journey in this life.  The one think I have always prayed for, will eventually bring me to my hearts desires.  It reminded  me that I had forgotten my original reason for blogging.  To tell my stories, open my heart and let it pour out, in the hopes of helping others. 

It turned out when I first started doing that though, it helped me continue to grow and heal even faster than ever before.  I realize, and was told last week by 2 of my best friends (& angels),  that I am not the same person I was 2 years ago and not even 10 months ago.   They both said that they had seen the most healing, growth and self-love in me over the last 10 months.  How nice of them to share that outside opinion with me!  They are so right too!!

I will continue to focus on the positives in my life and post my most popular Friday "Happiness" posts.  However I am also going to remember the reason I started my blog in the first place.  Writing in the hope of helping other people with my 'true life stories'! 

I am going to include some of my journal entries like before and write about the things that are dear to  my heart and drive my passions in life.  Letting you all into my inner self once again. 

I hope you will all continue to join me on my journey and share my heart felt post with someone who may need to know also.  Reminding them that they are 'never' alone in their struggles, trials or heartache!

I love you all, both in my blogging world of friends and those who have known me for a long time and read my journey on Facebook.  Thank you!!  

BIG HUG!
~ Coreen

Sweet Country Boy.......

"If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, then you're a leader." ~John Quincy Adams

I saw this man a while back who at first glance was a nice looking sweet country boy. Then I met him and realized he was so much more. Up until that time in my life, I'd never met anyone like him.

When I first heard him speak it was to a group of young people about his career choice, having a positive attitude and how he managed his people based on that positive attitude.

He was so incredibly passionate about what he did and the importance of attitude.  He was obviously very intelligent too, but without being arrogant.  Just open, honest and genuine!  He inspired me to believe in myself and to follow my own passions!

Since that day we have talked and gotten to know each other a little better. We have similar personalities, character qualities and the same family values.  We are very much alike.  I know in my heart that we were meant to be friends; because we each needed a friend at that time in our lives.

I feel comfortable around him.  I think he’s a true friend and that I can trust him.  Even more important, I think he ‘gets’ me.  A lot of people don’t, but I think he really does and I like that!

I had talked about writing for many years, but had never taken the initiative or just got started.  I had this dream of helping people with my experiences and stories.

Then I met this man with the passion for his job and the heart of gold toward other people.  He inspires me every day.  He is the reason I started writing, finally following my own passions and started fulfilling my own dreams.  Many of my stories are inspired by him and already help many people.  I know this from the private emails I receive everyday from those who find understanding, inspiration and strength from my blog post.

Much time has passed since I met this sweet man; and although we are busy with our careers and taking care of are own families; he continues to inspire me every time I think of him.  I know that my life, and the lives of everyone who knows him, will never be the same because of this sweet country boy!

"If there is no passion in your life, then have you really lived?  Find your passion, whatever it may be. Become it, and let it become you and you will find great things happen FOR you, TO you and BECAUSE of you." ~T. Alan Armstrong

When to help and when to walk away....

I am very intuitive and ‘emotional’ in the sense that I can ‘feel’ the emotions and tensions of the people around me. I know when people are lying or angry, even if they deny either of those things. I can tell when something is wrong and can even guess with unnerving accuracy what has happened at times.

Being in tune like that is very draining and really a downer sometimes. I can get sucked into other peoples’ lives and ‘dramas’ very easily. I have to be very careful as to how much of another person’s troubles I take in, because they will end up weighing on me after a while.

Now I love to help people and I want to be a good friend, don’t get me wrong. I just need to be careful. I need to set limits on the amount of energy and time from my own life I am capable and willing to put forth. I also want to be careful not to overstep any boundaries in a friends' life.

Even more importantly, the person I am trying to help must want help and be willing to accept it. I’ve learned the hard way, more than once, that you can’t help someone who doesn’t really want to improve their situation or want to change, if that is what’s needed. The old saying is true; you can’t help someone who isn’t willing to help themselves.

So when, as a friend, do you speak up and step in to help? When do you walk away from a friendship, even though you still care, because it’s draining the life right out of you or sacrificing your own health and well being? When you first suspect they are not trying to improve their situation? Or when it’s starting to affect your own family or other friendships?

I take all of that into consideration and then listen to my intuition or ‘gut’. If I feel anxiety or an unsettling feeling that the person isn’t telling the truth, then I back away. If they reach out to me, I will be honest and as good a friend as they will let me be.  However, I will never pacify a situation that I think is wrong. Or tell someone that ‘it’s ok’ when it’s not.

I don’t feel either of those would be any help to the person in the long run. I wouldn’t want my friends to sugar coat anything with me. I would want my friends to be honest with me! Those are true friends in my book!