She is crazy, but very smart. She has spies everywhere because she is very clever and knows how to
pull people in with her lies and perception of the truth. She gets them to 'spy for her' and tell her things by being very 'sweet' and manipulating her half truths to get people to feel sorry for her. Those she pulls in are willing to help her because they either believe her lies or are very nosy and want to know what they 'think' is going on in other peoples' lives. Gossip is a form of entertainment for them. Many are phony to people's faces, then talk behind their backs. These people should be fired, but their bosses don’t know.
She also has a 6th sense, however she doesn’t use it for good or to make better life choices. She uses it to get what she wants. The knowledge she gains from her spies, along with her just ‘knowing’ at times, is what she uses to manipulate the people in her life. She uses guilt to get her way or makes up lies to gain sympathy from others and then gains control whenever someone tries to pull away from them.
She doesn’t care what she says, how she acts or who she hurts. Their world and perceptions revolve only around themselves and what they want. The people that they are supposed to love, including her own children, get put in the middle and used for leverage. She keeps her man awake at night arguing, not caring if he gets enough sleep, has to get up early or has a long drive to work and back home each day. Not caring if the fighting and stress effects his job or if he gets in an accident because she didn't let him get enough sleep. She doesn’t care. She thinks it serves him right for her not getting what she wants. She is selfish and self-serving. She has an excuse for everything.
People like this, both male and female, must be very insecure and feel threatened, for whatever reason or excuse they come up with. They take no
responsibility for their own choices or actions. They are obviously miserable in their own lives, so they cause trouble in other peoples, with their actions and behaviors. Most even act as if everything in life is about them. It shows in their manipulation and constant rudeness toward others.
I know several people like this. At one time I actually tried to be friends with one of them. Mostly because I didn’t want them as an enemy. I saw what they were capable of. I also tried to see the good in everyone and wanted to be friends with all that I met back then. I now know I don't want to be friends with everyone. Another part of me thought I needed to become strong enough to ‘handle’ people like this. That it would make me a better person.
I was wrong! I saw the malicious things these types of people are capable of... first hand. The friendships they ruined and the lives they tried to destroy. People like that are no good to be around... no matter how strong you are or how nice a person you want to be. Their self-centered nature, self-serving motives and negative attitudes... can suck the life right out of you if you let them.
I have a very good friend who is in a similar situation. Looking from the outside in, I feel they have a person just like this around them. They are negatively and maliciously affecting their life. My friend is a really nice person, hard worker, great parent and an all around good person. They put everyone else first in their lives, because that is who they are. Every human being deserves to be treated with respect at the very least. Along with the
honest truth and appreciation. We all deserve those!
I worry about them because I doubt they take care of themselves. I know they don't get enough sleep and I’m equally sure they have enormous stress in their life. I
pray for their health and safety every day! I wish for peace and happiness to fill their life very soon. I also wish I knew they were Ok more often... but I don't want to cause my friend more trouble or stress. That's the last thing I want to do.
I know it’s none of my business; however I understand what it’s like to live your life doing your best with little or no appreciation. In addition to having outside influences cause unnecessary trouble and needless stress. I also know what it’s like to be in a relationship where the other person is selfish and self-serving. Because of my own experiences, I have enormous compassion and understanding. I also feel I have a right to care… as a friend and as a human being in this world. We all should care how people are treated! The world would be a better place if we all had a little more humility.
Humility, or being humble, is the quality of being modest, reverential, even politely submissive, and never being arrogant, contemptuous, rude or even self-abasing. Humility, in various interpretations, is widely seen as a virtue in many religious and philosophical traditions, being connected with notions of transcendent unity and of
egolessness. Which mean having no emotional state of ego or selfishness.
Humility is often rewarded in relationships. It is the way of the world to fill the empty cup. Regardless of your position, humility is a positive and deceptively powerful attribute. True humility is a virtue to which all should aspire.
The happiest people are those who know how to bring each situation into balance by reducing that which is too great in their lives, and by adding to that which is too little. A humble person craves not power, but balanced and stable relationships. Humility is the virtue that allows you to perceive the balancing force; humble people are not prey to the many illusions that grow out of self-importance. If humility is not natural to our disposition, we should make a conscious effort to develop it.
“I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi
"This is the wish we should all have for each other: Comfort on difficult days, smiles when sadness intrudes, rainbows to follow the clouds, laughter to kiss your lips, sunsets to warm your heart, hugs when spirits sag, beauty for your eyes to see, friendships to brighten your being, faith so that you can believe, confidence for when you doubt, courage to know yourself, patience to accept the truth, Love to complete your life." ~ Author Unknown
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