Half Full & Aloha Friday!

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"The optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose." – Kahlil Gibran

"A hug is worth a thousand words. A friend is worth more."- Sent by Jasmine Fitzwilliam

Half Full Friday is a series of weekly posts that Eye Girl originally started in June 2009.We believe that a lot of our happiness is determined by our attitude about the things that happen to us. So by participating, we are deciding to see the glass as half full, instead of half empty. We are choosing to concentrate on the positives, instead of dwelling on the negatives. Our Half Full Friday posts are a way to do just that. They are a list of the things in our life that have brought us happiness over the past week. We are determined to find the something good in every day. Are you?

"The real man smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection" - Thomas Paine

For the next week, we challenge you to keep a list of at least one thing that brought you happiness each day.

"Friends are the most important ingredient in this recipe of life." - (sent by Dior Yamasaki)

This is what I'm Happy for this week:

• I am happy I was able to help and calm a good friend this week & give her Hope!  
• I am happy it's Friday because I have a lot to get done this weekend.
• I am happy my son asked for help this week!  A Hugh step!
• I am happy I got to talk to my son in Texas this week! 

"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out." ~Anonymous

It's also "ALOHA FRIDAY" Everyone!!

If you want to join in the fun? Post your own question on your blog and leave your link at the Aloha Friday post at An Island Life. Then you can visit the other participants if you wish...It’s a great way to make new bloggy friends or see what people are thinking about this week and join in a conversation or two if you like.

"A Friend is someone who knows all about you and loves you anyway!!!" - (sent by Heather Tallent)

My question:  When do you give a friend advice?  Only when they ask for it or when you think they 'need to hear it' anyway?  Are you 'kind' about it or are you judgemental and harsh, because you think you know best?

My answer:   I feel that being harsh or judgemental never helps anyone feel better or gives them the strength they need.  Encouragement, loving support and kindness goes along ways.  I only give advice when it is asked whenever possible.  However I try to always be supportive and may tell some personal experience stories to get a message or idea to them.  That seems to work really well when I want to help without telling them what I think they should do!  I'm not in their shoes, even if I've been in their situation. 

In extreme cases, when  someone is being abused, I try to 'help' more.  Of course if it is physically, I'm more aggressive.  However usually it is a friend being verbally abused and/or emotionally manipulated.  Again, my first hand experiences give me compassion as well as understanding.  Which most of the time, that is what most people need in times of stress or trauma in their lives.  Isn't that what we would all like from a friend or family member...... Compassion and Understanding?!

"A friend is one who believes in you when you have ceased to believe in yourself." - Sent by Lysha

Blessings & Hugs to you All,
Coreen