Fighting for Love...

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"Never Forget that your most powerful force on earth is Love." ~Nelson Rockefeller

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"You never lose by loving.  You always lose by holding back." ~Barbara De Angelis

Whatever you give out in life is what you receive back in life... by: Rhonda Byrne

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“Love life and life will love you back. Love people and they will love you back.” ~Arthur Rubinstein

The life of your dreams, everything you would love to be, do or have, has always been closer to you than you knew, because the power to everything you want is inside you!

Love is not weak, feeble, or soft.  Love is the positive force of life!  Love is the cause of everything positive and good.

Everything you want to be, do, or have comes from love.

The positive force of love can create anything good, increase the good things and change anything negative in your life.

Every day, in every moment, you make the choice whether to love and harness the positive force -or not.
Whatever you give out in life is what you receive back in life.

Give positivity, you receive back positivity; give negativity, you receive back negativity.

Life doesn't happen to you; you receive everything in your life based in what you're given.

Whether your thoughts and feelings are good or bad, they return as automatically and precisely as an echo.

Talk about the good news of the day.  Talk about what you love.  And bring what you love to you.

Love, because when you love... you are using the greatest power in the universe.

by:  Rhonda Byrne



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"If you love the life you live, you will live a life of love." ~ Mark Houlahan

The Lotus Touts... tips for a Good Life and Great Relatioionships.

Lotus Touts means Good Luck.  It originates from Feng Shui which is an ancient Chinese system of aesthetics believed to use the laws of both Heaven (astronomy) and Earth (geography) to help one improve life by receiving positives.  There are many translations and spin offs of it.  Feng Shui is demonstrated in architecture now and western cultures are embracing it.

The Lotus Touts is a list of  Good Guidelines for Life and Relationships.  They should be posted in our homes right along with 'Love is' and 'House Rules' prints.  There's some mighty fine advice in these words, even if you're not superstitious. This Lotus Touts has been provided to you for good luck and good advice only. 

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR. When you say, 'I love you,' mean it.

FIVE.. When you say, 'I'm sorry,' look the person in the eye..

SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

NINE.... Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know?'

FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

FIFTEEN. Say 'bless you' when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice

TWENTY- ONE. Spend some time alone.

For more on Feng Shui and tips to improve your life, relationships and bringing more positive energy into your life:  About Feng Shui.com    Absolutely Feng Shui   The World of Feng Shui

What does 'Unconditional Love' mean to You?

I talk about Unconditional Love a lot. I even put a quote on my blog page recently that I love and that adds a needed piece. "The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance."- Brian Tracy

I feel that Unconditional Love is accepting someone for who they are and embracing them for their uniqueness and the person that not only are inside, but the person they could be with love and encouragement. Not judging, criticizing or trying to change them

The dictionary describes Unconditional Love as a term used that means to love someone regardless of one's actions or beliefs. That definition I’m not so sure of, because actions and beliefs reflect underlying character.

Although in a case of my children it wouldn’t matter what they thought or believed, I would still love them unconditionally no matter what. When it comes to dating and finding someone to spend time with, it gets more complicated. I have lots of mixed feelings and opinions in that situation. More on that later…..

So what do you think Unconditional Love is my new friends?

My 3 Sons

This is a picture of me with my 3 sons. They are awesome young men and very good to me! They are very close to each other and very respectful and compassionate toward other people. I could not be prouder of my boys!

Michael is my oldest son. He is a powerlifting champion and has also been on the United States Powerlifting team 6 times. Graduated from college and is now in grad school. He is going into the medical field because he truly wants to help people. Says he made the decision from seeing what his youngest brother with Asperger Syndrome, has gone through.

Matthew, my middle son, was leading tackler and All State in high school. He thought he wanted to play college football too, but after one season realized it wasn't fun anymore. So he changed colleges and career direction after his first semester. He is now a graphic designer/brander in Chicago and finishing his bachelor’s degree. So cool!

Brandon is my youngest son and my triple miracle! As most of you know by now, he had Asperger Syndrome. But there is so much more to the story. I had my tubes tied after my second son Matthew was born; another story in itself for another time.

I got pregnant after my divorce from one time; I swear that is totally true. To say I was shocked.. is an understatement. I carried the pregnancy test around in my purse for so long that the pink ‘plus’ sign finally faded.

I had a rough pregnancy while taking care of a 2 and 4 year old by myself. Brandon was born 10 weeks early and only given a 25% chance of making it. He of course made it and will be 20 years old next month. He doesn’t agree, but we all know that he is a Miracle to me, his brothers and anyone who takes the time to know him!

Brandon has overcome so much in his life. He is now in college for Culinary Arts and doing extremely well. He attended 5 schools, before finding a good one ‘for him’ and overcoming his learning difficulties. The school that finally helped him says he is truly a “success story”; and of course he is!

So there is the ‘short’ version of My 3 Sons! I have been and continue to be very blessed by them each and every day! I love them more than anything! This is my family and they are my world!
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Love Manual.....please

I've been waiting for the right man to come along for quite a while now. I've grown and figured out who I am. I've rejected the wrong men and learned what the good ones should be like. I've put myself out there trying to find true love and been hurt and even embarrassed a few times. 

However this time, I feel totally different. A calm inside of me from being absolutely certain that he is the 'One' capable of loving me and appreciative of genuine love in return. The one whose own heart, soul, character, and ability to love is a perfect match to my own.

I agree with the understanding that taking your time will season a relationship and make it even better later on. But after a while you start to think 'Life is too Short" to wait too long. So when is the right time and who should make the first move?  An even harder question is who should say the 'love' word first? 

I understand that everyone has other things in their life that occupy their time. Jobs, kids, homes, and other responsibilities and stresses. But you don't want the right one to slip away because they didn't think you were interested. Or to run away if you scare them by being too forward too soon.

I've never had a problem in the last 5 years, just walking away from men, because I knew they weren't the one. But what do you do when you think they are? How much time do you give things to work out?

Can someone please give me a love manual to follow, so I don't make any mistakes?  A love manual for the great relationship I am so longing for and finally believe I deserve....please!

Falling in Love for All the Right Reasons

I recently read the book "Falling in Love for All Right Reasons" by Neil Clark Warren. He is the co-founder of eHarmony. He goes through the 29 dimensions of relationship compatibility. The main characterizes are in regards to values, character, mindset, temperament, and attitudes toward parenting.

Nowhere in the 29 dimensions does he mention either age or location. Yet most people pick someone to be in a relationship with based on one or both of those 2 things. Location especially seems to be a top priority for many people, just because it’s easier and more convenient.

I have always thought that after high school or 21, that age is just a number. So it was extremely interesting that age was also not one of the 29 dimensions.

The men I've dated have been a variety of ages. With none of them has age ever been a determination of their maturity, respect for others, values or morals.. In fact in my experience, age has nothing to do the character of a person or their compatibility to anyone.

The book is very good and I would highly recommend it to anyone who wants to understand relationships and why some couples last and why some end up being polar opposites and get divorced.  Which is ok in my oppion, becasue I beleive people have a right to be happy.

So find the right person for you, fall in love for all the right reasons and above all "Be Happy"!
"Falling in Love for All the Right Reasons" by Neil Clark Warren.